Ang Ampalaya

Karaniwang sinasabi ng mga bitter sa lovelife; "Mahihiwalay din kayo"

ANG MGA DAKILANG AMPALAYA

Pag ang babae mayaman
huwag mong iwanan
hindi dahil may panlibre
Dahil minahal mo siya, pare

Pero pag ika'y iniwan
Huwag mong iyakan
sama-sama nating tawanan
ang nangyaring kasawian

Maraming single dyan
Masaya at malaya
Pero karamihan sa kanila
ay nagpapaka-AMPALAYA

Napaka-bitter nila
Kaya sila AMPALAYA
"Putang-ina niya"
'Yan ang bukambibig nila

Maghihiwalay naman
hihintayin nalang
at saka siya aalagaan
para kanyang malaman
na siya ay nawalan
ng tunay na nagmamahal
sa puso niyang sugatan

Dahil kami AMPALAYA
malungkot pag wala siya
at ibang tao ang nagpapasaya
iba ang nagpapangiti sa kanya

Pero pag kami, malupit
parang isang inipit
masarap kahit naipit
nagmamahal kahit masakit
sa taong walang malasakit.

From: PUP Ampalaya Dead Poet

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On The Other Side

You will never learn to miss a thing without
enduring the meaning on the other way.
Photo taken : Napudot Road, Brgy. Kita-Kita, Balungao

ON THE OTHER SIDE

Let me call for sadness
For I shall know happiness,
Let the bitter come, be harness
For I to recognize sweetness,
Let the pain on my numbness
to let me feel be hopeless,
Let tragedy comes endless
for me to feel indulgeness.
For human will never learn,
the meaning of things we earn,
Not until comes opposite turn,
Meaning be realized in return.

This song is dedicated for the people who do not cares about the things that they have now on their possession. They sometimes or all of the times, disregard the thing that they have, ignore it instead of cherishing it. Things didn't come again and again and the importance of it will be recognized/ be realized in terms when it didn't exists at all.
It is simple thing, it is a simple idea--not all things exist forever, so make use of the time of its existance.

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Taking Chances

There are only two options, one take that chance and
explore the possibilities beyond or two run away and have
your own life, nothing change, nothing to happen.

Personal Chances in our decision in Life

Not all things comes randomly, there is a pattern we just didn't know it how it goes. And there are times when this "things" comes to us either it is unexpectedly or unintentional , and that is we called  chances. The chances which can be a turnout in such events of your life, or can change what you expected in the future, or change the way how you think about the things in life. The possibilities are endless beyond that certain chances that pops out in the universe, we can look at that or just leave it there-ignored.

This chances comes in a great reason to throw you back in the line but there are chances that can drive you off that trail. That "Negative" Chances that cross in every human's life makes a fear inside us that can entirely throw us off that path and make us in a place where we are not moving at all, with no direction you're just standing there all day or worst until you die. Fear can be the barrier in having a good life, we are all in great fear of the new things that makes us to be left behind the trails of the others. We're afraid of it knowing that we would be lost in that "New Things" where we can have no direction at all. However such negativism of thoughts will make you idle in one point with no progress as you walk on that trail of yours heading on that direction that you've dreamed of. Fear will break you down and hinders you from the possibilities of doing things better than what you do things right now.

There are a lot of chances, a lot of chances that we missed and lost forever. Some of them comes back, some of them comes again and again, and some of them stays for little time until they're gone. However there is no assurance if such chances will come out again so better grab it when it is hot before it becomes cold and useless. Every Chances have its own consequences but if we look at that consequences rather than the possibility of taking that chances into action, we may found ourself in fear and in boredom of life

Giving Chances to others

Chances didn't come up in the mid-air without anyone placing it right there. There are events that may throw you in the situation in which you will choose if that chances in front of you will be better or worse to your side. As i said, things didn't come randomly- we can understand it in better view using the Chaos Pattern. Anyway, giving chances to the others is optional to your side, you can create a kind of chance to this kind of person or to that kind of person it is upon your consent.

Some of us deprives other people right to be given a chances which makes a border between Psychological aspects in socializing or interacting between two individuals. Either it is cause by fear because we experience such thing in the past or just a fear in nothing (we don't have a clue on the consequences or any idea what will happen aftermath). Whatever the reason is, giving a chance to someone is giving yourself a huge possibilities in life. However, giving a chance is not a simply thing like giving a lolipop or a yellow cab pizza to the poor, we need to be rational in our excuses that define our decision upon that situation. Ask yourself if your decision is rational enough to answer all of your question, if not, then it is not rational according to your idea. Not because you feel bad about it, it makes a firm foundation that you're rational on your decision.

Most of the people dares not to think rationally because it consumes a lot of time, they could have spend it to their pleasures to fulfill their satisfaction. Their mindset are like "Oh i have this feeling, i'm not doing that" feeling is not a good basis of decision. Why? because feeling is not constant (More if you're so irrational in thinking, better not base all the things to feelings), you sometimes feel wrong but you think you're happy, we misjudge our own feelings, how can that be so trustworthy? They sometimes head on giving chances to the wrong person and hoping for the best that their expectations will come to reality. It is the main reason why a person give a chance to a wrong person, because they know what will happen even though it is irrational basis in giving someone a chance.

Chances carry a lot of possibilities, we may have some clue in it but the consequences beyond that are endless (you can choose anything from it) more than our expectations. It is a countless chances that may lead you to another chances that can open another door for you. Life knowing what is the outcome of the effort is a life with no thrill and adventure. We may taking some wrong chances, but please don't make it stop you from taking Chances again, learn from it don't let the fear hinders you.

Life is an endless possibilities you just need to explore and look for the better life that you can say it is "Uniquely yours"

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Just Smile and carry on

Emman De Torres, ccollege classmate.

I was listening in every piece of thing that makes someone as who they are. I've listened hundred of story that makes sense more than what we saw at them. These story back in their early days is the part of what they look as of today, the person whom you know standing in front of you. It is the process of becoming who they're right now and who will they be after another day. Listening to someone's hurt, life and anything that they say is the most greatest gift and oppurtunity to know  someone. As what i believe, to know someone is to know how they end up to be the person whom you know.

I got this story that i've learned much from it as i think what is the essentials in smiling to someone whom you never know. I asks myself, why it is necessary to smile to people that you just meet on the way to the school as you walk away in the sidewalk. The idea was nonsense if we look on that simple side (you will look like an idiot) but if we look in the deeper sense of it, it is more essential that what you think.

He told me a story once when we're on the way to Batangas State University, in Malvar, Batangas few kilometers south of Manila together with bunch of mates as we seek for our related literature source. It was in the middle of the great traffic when he told me about smiling to the people on the other jeepney. I can't take the logic, i was thinking about it ever since he told me about it, why we have to smile to the other people? so i ask, he simply reply me "It makes me feel better when i talk to someone and find a new friends with them" "I just smile at them, sometimes they smile back but the others just carry on (ignore)"

Then the conclusion runs on my mind, that the essence of smiling on someone is a sign of a great concern, the sense of individualism is eliminated between the borders of each individual in a community. I've just noticed when i walk on the busy street, people walk by and pass in front of you--they just ignore you like you're just part of the rocks on the way creating a huge border. We're millions but it makes no sense why only few people have their concern on everyone, we're worse than a greed. Smiling to someone is making a great bridge that you can walk to make a one community not a society with their own worlds.

Keep on smiling and take no day without making someone happy. Eliminate the borders of Individualism.

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The Five People you meet in Heaven-Mitch Albom

I was able to read this on my table with the coffee after i've done reading the famed "Tuesday's with Morrie" that makes a heart felt sense in the minds of the reader. I enjoy reading it because there is a twist in every turn of the pages and carries a lot of load in life lesson much like what Mitch Albom Tuesday's with Morrie.
I'm also proud as a Filipino to include a Filipino character in the end named Tala and setting a World War 2 battlefield over my motherland. The words makes me imagine the location where the scene is taking place.
For the Psychologist as I'am who is still learning and on the process of being a professional someday, you will be not a true Psychologist if you haven't consider reading this kind of books into you lap. Highly recommended for the people who want to understand what the life means to us and why we have to make every second to the fullest.
The story runs with Eddie who is in the process of meeting five person who sets an important role to his life. I assure you that this is one of the books that you must read before you die.

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Jeepney Culture

Mga bagay na kapansin-pansin ngunit hindi napapansin ng ibang Pilipino sa pagsakay nila sa pambansang sasakyan ng bansa, ang Jeep (Dyip). Hindi ka tunay na pinoy kung hindi mo nasubukang sumakay sa Jeep, o kung isa ka ngang Pinoy at hindi ka man lang nakaramdam na sumakay sa mala-sardinas na sasakyan na ito ay masasabing isa kang "banyaga sa sariling bayan" (alien na lang kasi kahit mga Kano, Briton, o Aleman eh sumasakay pag naka-tungo na sila dito sa Pinas)
Sa subrang tagal ko na nabubuhay sa Pinas eh, nabobobo na ako sa kapapansin nito sa ating pangmasang sasakyan.
1. una sa lahat ay ang OBLIGASYON natin sa dyip, ang pagpasa ng pamasahe (kung malapit ka sa istribo o dili kaya eh malayo-layo kaunti sa mamang tsuper). Mga kapwa ko Pinoy, hindi po obligasyon ng mga taong malapit kay Tsuper ang pagbigay ng inyong pamasahe. Bayad ninyo iyon at ineestorbo mo ang kapwa mo mananakay malay mo, nag-eemo sa byahe o ine-enjoy ang tanawin sa gilid ng kalsada. Mahiya naman kayo kahit minsan, MAGPA-SALAMAT naman kayo sabay ngiti.
Mali: "Bayad" kuha ng pamasahe tapos bigay kay driver 'snob'
Tama: "Makikiabot nga ng bayad" kuha ng pamasahe "Salamat" 'ngiti'
Nabwibwisit ako sa mga taong parang hindi edukado na sa tingin nila na obligasyon ng katabi niya na i-abot kay driver ang pamasahe.
2. Mga taong nag-aamoy buro na at nanglilimahid na sa amoy, ano ito private car na ikaw lang ang sasakay. May mga tao diyan na todo ang linis ng kanilang katawan para sa interbyu niya tapos ung katabi lang pala ang magsisira ng pinaghirapan niyang paghahanda. Kung may "this seat is reserved for mababaho ang amoy" pwede pa, eh wala naman ganun eh. Kahit papaano naman, maligo kayo, para respeto sa ibang mananakay.
3. Feel at home mga taong naka-sando (tapos hawak pa sa hawakan, nakalantad ang kili-kili, biruin niyo nakakabweset lalo na kung may amoy), naka short (na halos makita na ung singit-singit na may libag) mahiya naman kayo sa mga taong sasakay, baka mapakunot ang noo nila sa napakasagwang imahe sa loob. Hoy, pampublikong sasakyan ito, hindi po ninyo ito bahay na isusuot ang gustong isuot. Magdamit naman kayo ng mga damit na wasto (Hindi naman ung napaka pormal).
4. sa mga babaeng sobra ang paniniwala sa Rejoice, yung mga buhok na nagsisiliparan sa mukha ng katabi na halos kainin na niya na parang spaghetti ang kanyang mahahabang buhok. Ang sakit kaya sa mukha, mas lalo na kung ang tulin ng patakbo ni driver, para kang sinasapak ng tambo sa mukha.
5. Sardinas, yung mga Barker na nagtatawag ng pasahero yung halos puno na kayo at wala ng espasyo sa gilid-gilid tapos nagtatawag pa ng pasahero. Ano ito, pare-pareho tayo ng pwet,minsan sabihin ninyo "kuya, saan ninyo ipapaupo yung ibang pasahero sa taas o sa guong".
May mga bagay na hindi ko na sinali dito sa maliit na listahan na ito, kasi kung iisa-isahin ko pa eh baka magsawa na kayo sa kasasakay ng dyip. Iiilan lang ito sa mga bagay na aking napansin sa aking pagsakay ng dyib.

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Friends with Benifits

From left: Philip Capuno, Rigie Viter, Mark John Otordo and Peter Malveda

There are many kinds of friends in this world. However not all friends we know are really our friends, some of them are just part of the society that we  have to interact and talk with to continue our life in a community.
Most of us got less information/knowledge about how we can choose our friends, tips in the internet and from your guidance councilor. As a typical individual in the community, i experience all these things including hate, jealousy and all the matters that comes between each person of the society.
So, i put some simple things (words) for simple person to understand and to apply it on their own way.
This is my LEVEL OF KNOWING ONE'S IDENTITY. Someone told me that true and real friends know each other identities that makes them different from the other group in the society. It isn't the time that you are together as a friend, not even the likes, but your knowledge about this person that makes you feel alright (No sh*t actually).
Discover, the first step in knowing someone is to discover who they really are. This will confirm your idea about this person's identity. And of course you have to talk with him/her to discover things that you wanted to discover (it is on you, if you see a certain person as weird then you have to figure out if he is weird or just genius enough for you not to understand him). This is the first step in knowing someone through talking, observing him/her (if you like to be a stalker then go, just make it more sensible than following her/him alone).
Understand, after discovering who he/she was, if she/he is so religious that their house is full of saints, or just a simple girl and a perfect daughter/son. In this point you have to decide if you want that person to be your friend or just a person to build the society where you're right now. Some people ignore this thing, and just carry on, it is the reason why some of the "friendship" that you know end up in conflict or in great "isolation" to each other, because they really not understand that certain individual. They just jump towards to another step (which is to accept) and carry on ignoring the fact that your unconsciousness didn't like that person at all. You will realize this thing once your friend acted like a strange, like you just met a few hours earlier.
I saw this things from my own classmates, maybe the lack of information about having friends makes their relationship much like in a great chaos of cold war (you didn't know if they will hit your head or not)
Accept, to accept people is the most important thing that you will do in knowing someone's personality. After understanding him, of who he/she really was including her/his dislikes, interest, hobbies and all the weird things that she/he do. Acceptance is the most important thing in friendship. If you didn't accept some part of who he was, then you truly not his/her friend, you are just "somebody that i used to know" kind of stuff. A true friend accept the entire you, not just few of you, because a certain individual is a package it is not some Filipino sari-sari store or installment payments.
lastly, Be friend with that is the last after all those things that you put aside. Real friends is like a family that you can ask for something when you need help and when you feel blue you can ask for a hand to lift your burden.
Be rational in choosing your friends, it will make someone as who they're and who they will be in the future.

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Honesty is the Best policy

We always think about hitting the first spot, in the race, in the competition and even a small game. We always end up thinking to be in the row of glory. If you think that way- don't worry, you are still a normal human being- it is fine to feel such thing, to aim for the gold and grab the trophy, that is the human nature.
We come in the point that loosing is not part of the game anymore, that loosing means 'nothing to gain'. We become so feared in loosing that we do all things just to achieve our desire, our goals, our satisfaction to win over our opponents.
Accept the truth that we cheat sometimes, rarely, most of the time or almost always (for politicians only/ and for the husband who cheat) in our entire timeline, we can't deny that we didn't commit a single cheating move. However, that doesn't mean to say that you have to do cheating always like it is on your daily routine to complete your day, throw that thing out of your mind.
We're human and we got morals to consider and to call ourself trully a human being. That is the only difference that we can call our own as unique to other living things. But that can't be achieve without doing it and applying the morality to our ownself. Knowing is not enough, learning is just part of the process and Applying is the best conclusion. Be a man, be Human, Be Moral

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